Empowerment is a state of being where you feel confident and in control of your life. From a Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) perspective, empowerment is intricately linked to the concept of the ‘Cause & Effect’ equation. This equation is fundamental in understanding how we can shift from feeling helpless to being empowered.
What is ‘Cause & Effect’?
In NLP, the ‘Cause & Effect’ equation represents two distinct sides: the ‘Cause’ side and the ‘Effect’ side. Being on the ‘Cause’ side means taking responsibility for our actions and outcomes, while being on the ‘Effect’ side implies that we see ourselves as victims of circumstances, thus giving away our power.
When we position ourselves at ‘Cause’, we focus on the actions we can take to achieve desired results. This proactive stance empowers us to find solutions and make changes, but more importantly gives us choice. Conversely, when we are at ‘Effect’, we tend to offer reasons, excuses, and justifications for why things are not going as we wish. This reactive stance traps us in a cycle of disempowerment, as we attribute our lack of success to external factors beyond our control.
The Power of Being at ‘Cause’
Being at ‘Cause’ means recognising that we have the ability to influence our circumstances. It is about acknowledging that our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours play a crucial role in shaping our experiences. When we embrace this mindset, we stop waiting for external factors to change and start taking deliberate actions to create the life we want.
At ‘Cause’, we understand that:
- We get results: We focus on what we can do, take responsibility, and find ways to overcome obstacles.
- We have control: We steer our lives towards our goals, making adjustments as needed.
In contrast, being at ‘Effect’ often leads to:
- Giving reasons: We explain why we are not where we want to be, citing external circumstances.
- Making excuses: We justify our lack of progress by blaming others or situations.
- Feeling powerless: We relinquish control over our own happiness and success.
The Trap of Conditional Wellbeing
A common pitfall is putting our wellbeing at the effect of someone or something else. For instance, saying “I’ll be happy when I get a promotion” or “I’ll feel fulfilled when I find the perfect partner” places our emotional state in the hands of external conditions. This mindset ensures that we remain perpetually dissatisfied, as we tie our happiness to factors outside our control.
Viktor Frankl, in his seminal work ‘Man’s Search For Meaning’, offers profound insights into the importance of being at ‘Cause’. Despite enduring unimaginable suffering in Nazi concentration camps, Frankl discovered that he could find meaning and maintain his sense of purpose by focusing on his inner world. He realised that, even in the most extreme conditions, he retained the power to choose his response. Frankl’s experience underscores the essence of being at ‘Cause’: regardless of external circumstances, we always have the power to shape our internal reality.
Practical Steps to Embrace ‘Cause’
- Self-awareness: Reflect on areas where you may be operating at ‘Effect’. Identify thoughts and behaviours that reinforce a victim mentality.
- Shift your language: Replace excuses and justifications with taking responsibility. For example, instead of saying “I can’t because...”, say, “I could, but I am choosing not to…“
- Take action: Set small, achievable goals and take consistent steps towards them. Celebrate your progress and learn from setbacks.
- Focus on what you can control: Invest your energy in areas where you can make a difference, rather than worrying about what is beyond your influence.
By embracing the ‘Cause’ side of the ‘Cause & Effect’ equation, we reclaim our power and open the door to true personal empowerment. This shift in perspective not only enhances our ability to achieve our goals but also fosters a deeper sense of fulfilment and resilience in the face of life’s challenges.
Interested to Learn More?
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